2022 Plans for Blogging, Social Media, & More

In my last post, I wrote that blogging and cosplaying were hit negatively. I’m not sure if it’s just me, but it doesn’t seem like blogging is that popular anymore. Lots of people have drifted away, and I’m in the same boat, hanging by a thread.

The blog is like an echo chamber of what I’ve already posted on Instagram. Posting the same images feels redundant, and I think Instagram posts get more attention anyway.

I confess that I don’t have a lot of self-confidence in my cosplays. I get days where I look at someone’s photos and feel self-conscious of my own. Is this surprising? I’ve felt this way with my drawings, and I haven’t drawn anything in several months. I know that it’s not a competition, but I guess there’s a mental block. As a result, I severely lack motivation. There’s a couple of cosplays I haven’t posted on the blog yet (due to the redundancy reason), so stay tuned for that.

I like posting. I like taking pictures for a number of reasons, the biggest being that it’s a record. It’s fun, and it keeps me occupied. I’m not going to quit cosplaying just yet, but I just don’t think it’s the focus of my posts anymore. There’s something I’ve more interested in at the moment, and that is:

Mori Kei.

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In simple terms, it is described as a “forest girl” style. I’ve admired this fashion style for many years now. To me, it’s not just clothing, but also a lifestyle. I think that the activities associated with mori kei align with my interests extremely well, so the goal for 2022 is to be more intentional with it. I think it’ll be fun to document my mori kei journey, and it’ll also motivate me and keep me accountable.

It’ll be a gradual process. I don’t like the idea of discarding your old clothes because they don’t fit the aesthetic, and I also don’t like the idea of spending a fortune to achieve this goal. Part of the intentionality piece is being more mindful of what I buy this year.

I won’t lie, I lost a number of followers on my Cosplay Instagram for posting non-cosplay content. Being more serious about mori kei means that I’ll need a platform to post on. I suppose the options are converting the Cosplay Instagram (which is also my main account) into a mori kei + cosplay account, or using a different account. There’s also mori kei outfits versus everyday stuff, and whether I want to separate those or keep them in the same account.

I know, this stuff shouldn’t be complicated, but I also think we need to think about how we spend our time, especially when it comes to social media and online activity.

Any thoughts?

My Week in Pictures 3

It’s been a couple of years since my last Week in Pictures post.

For those of you wondering, yes, I am double vaccinated. Masks are not required indoors or outdoors in BC, Canada. I still wear masks when I go out (minus restaurants and secluded areas). I actually double mask and avoid places where there are a lot of people.

I loved the mango roll and aburi sushi. Everything was so fresh.

I got the Original pork loin and tried a bit of my friend’s Double Cheese pork loin. The portions were huge and the meat was crispy.

I finally got a hair cut! Just in time for the current heat wave, too.

I found three four-leaf clovers this week. You can find me at my Instagram clover account @misswaves

When I Tell People I’m a Villain Stan

In my last blog post, I wrote that I was struggling to blog. Lo and behold, I came up with this blog post idea. It’s funny how life works sometimes.

Before I get into it, Happy birthday Xue Yang! He is one of my favourite characters of all time.

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I am a villain stan. When I tell people that I love villains, they often give me disapproving looks or insult my favourite characters. This type of response is so normal that I just laugh now.

I have a type.

There’s this meme I’ve seen a couple of times, and it’s pretty funny.

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It’s true. I don’t like all villains. Appearances aside, I don’t like villains that pretend to be good and hide behind a curtain (Jin Guanyao from The Untamed; Zhao Jing from Word of Honor). I also don’t like villains that manipulate, lie, and use others (Light Yagami from Death Note; Zhao Jing from Word of Honor).

I like characters that are outwardly chaotic. Everyone in that fictional world knows they are the villain. Hidan from Naruto Shippuden, Deidara from Naruto Shippuden, and Xue Yang from The Untamed are a few examples. A character with an evil laugh is a bonus.

I also love Juuzou Suzaya from Tokyo Ghoul, but I don’t exactly consider him a villain. The lines are blurred because he works for humans and kills ghouls. At the same time, the humans are sometimes painted as the villains.

I also like calm and intelligent villains, like Scorpion King from Word of Honor and Jun Kanzaki from Bloody Monday.

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Moral Compass?

Back to the meme posted above, I feel that the normal thing to do is to side with the good protagonist, almost as if it’s automatic. I question that! Why should I side with the protagonist? Just because they are good? What if the protagonist is the villain? Whose side are you on? Examples I can think of are Death Note, Moriarty: The Patriot, and Word of Honor.

It’s a fictional story. Does your moral compass even matter here?

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I don’t need a tragic backstory.

Most villains have a tragic childhood story, like their parents were killed when they were young trope. I don’t think it’s necessary. Sometimes, they can just be evil. I don’t need a backstory on why they turned evil.

I won’t defend a villain or apologize for their actions.

I am NOT a villain apologist. Like I said, I don’t need them to have a tragic backstory. Some people use it to justify a villain’s actions. I am fully aware that what they did was wrong. Again, it’s fictional.

I don’t agree with their actions most of the time.

I don’t. And I don’t think this is a pre-requisite to liking a character. In fact, I don’t even see how this relates to why you should like or dislike a character.

They make the story entertaining. Some series would cease to exist if there was no evil. Rather than admiring a hero’s journey, struggles, and perseverance, I would rather applaud the villain on their boldness.

I don’t expect them to win (or live).

Knowing how most stories go, the villain almost never wins. And sometimes, they die. This is expected, and I’ve already mentally prepared myself for this to happen right from the start. This is just the reality.

Bottom line: Fiction =/= Reality

Back to the responses I get when I tell people I like villains, why do people react like that? The villains are not real. Does me liking a mass murderer in a fictional story mean that I like criminals in real life? Of course not. It would be ridiculous to assume that I do. For the record, I have zero interest in real life criminals.

It’s so easy for me to make the distinction between fiction and reality. Me liking a character that does terrible deeds does not mean I support that behaviour in real life! I really don’t know why this is so difficult for some people to understand.

When Blogging Feels Like A Chore

My blog is over 8 years old. I want to post more frequently, but I’ve seem to lost whatever spark or inspiration I had some time ago.

I envy new bloggers because they seem to be a lot more motivated and excited than I am. They have fresh ideas. I feel the same toward old bloggers that are still at it.

I am not quitting. Don’t get me wrong — this is not a farewell announcement. But it is harder to blog now. No motivation, no original ideas, the list goes on. It would be lying if I said I don’t feel this way with my other hobby, cosplaying.

Is it the passage of time? Laziness? Tiredness? I don’t know.

Not enough engagement, perhaps? I don’t think so. I don’t think I’m fixated on numbers.

Whatever the reason, I don’t know what to do. Blogging is supposed to be a hobby, isn’t it? So why would I push myself to blog if it feels like a chore. Though it does feel sad to leave it alone.

Have you ever felt this way?

On Social Media & Content Creation [Part 2]

You can read Part 1 HERE.

I have some more thoughts on social media.

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Oversharing

How do you decide what to post, and what not to post? Honestly, I struggle with this because I sometimes think, Is there even a point to this, or am I just posting because everyone else is?

I am an anime blogger and cosplayer. Obviously, I will post content related to anime and my hobbies. That’s why I rarely talk about my family, friends, or work on my social media. It’s not that I’m not passionate about those topics; assuming that would be immature thinking. That’s just not what I’m here for.

I’ve got an interesting story. One of my friends rarely posts pictures with her boyfriend. Posting, or the lack of, really doesn’t mean much in terms of the quality of relationship. A few of her friends and peers assumed that she was single because of this. I find it quite funny, but also kind of sad.

Activism on Social Media

I’m the type of person that does my research on issues and discuss with family and close friends privately. I sign petitions and donate once in a while. I’ve seen people on social media say that if you don’t post about a social issue or show receipts that you’ve donated or signed petitions, you’re basically a bad person.

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I don’t agree. I feel that there are bigger things to worry about than calling out people who may already be supporting. What, exactly, does showing proof do, besides maybe boost one’s social standing artificially? Everyone has their own way of supporting.

I also don’t think that you have to insert yourself in a conversation all the time. You don’t have to have a take on everything, especially if you’re uninformed or aren’t passionate about a topic. It also kind of distracts from the main issue. A lot of it seems performative, anyway.

Thoughts?

Let me know what you think in the comments! As always, thanks for reading.

On Social Media & Content Creation

I’ve been thinking about social media for a while; here are my thoughts.

Social media is what you make of it.

Social media is a tool for you to use. Some people use it to boost their social standing, while others use it as a space to post their artworks or cosplays. Some people are collectors, and others enjoy eating food and/or making food. Some people use it to stay in touch with their friends; others use it to keep records. There’s no right or wrong way to use social media.

On Validation: Social Media versus Blogging

I’ve heard a lot of people say that you don’t need validation from posting, or from followers and engagement. Okay, then why do I see so many people asking for more followers and views on their blog posts? Many bloggers have written about their blogging goals for 2021 and most of them include achieving a certain number of followers and views. Is there a difference between needing validation from social media versus blogging?

I don’t think so. Many Instagrammers pour a lot of time and effort into their posts, just like bloggers. Both Instagrammers and bloggers create content. Is it “seeking validation/attention” or is it “having goals”?

On Taking Breaks versus Productivity

I’ve seen many content creators (cosplayers, bloggers, writers, artists, podcasters, YouTubers, and VTubers) apologize for not putting out content on time or for taking a break. It seems like taking breaks is a bad thing. Does anyone else find this weird?

I know that for certain platforms, the algorithm works in the favour of those who constantly post. I also sympathize with those who want to stay “relevant” and avoid losing followers.

How I Use Social Media

In my The Kore Wa Watashi Blog Award post, I self-proclaimed as a kuudere and used Houtarou Oreki’s photo to describe myself. While watching Hyouka, I resonated with what Houtarou said (shown above). It made me think, Why do I post on Instagram? I’m not enjoying it as much as I used to, and I don’t need validation from likes.

People use social media differently. Like I said, I view social media as a tool. You can find me most active on my Twitter, and I seldom use Instagram now. I still get some enjoyment out of Instagram – at the moment, anyway. If there comes a day when there is nothing to gain from social media, I will cease to use it.

Final Thoughts

Some people live their lives on social media, and I won’t be the judge of that. I hate it when people tell others to go outside/do whatever they do, as if they are superior. I will say this: social media shouldn’t be an exhausting thing. If you find that you are drained from it, consider taking a break. Perhaps you are putting unnecessary stress on yourself by placing too much importance on it.