In this post, I’ll be writing about how I manage criticism on the blog and my thoughts on this topic. If you haven’t heard about the Controversed project by Moya, click HERE to read about the project and HERE for more information about Week 4.
I have received criticism regarding my blog, drawings, and cosplays before, but it’s happens once in a blue moon. I get a lot more compliments than criticisms. When I do get criticism, here are some things I think about:
Did I ask for feedback?
What is the commenter’s intention? Do they want to help me or are they saying it out of spite?
Do I agree with what they are saying? Even when I don’t, I still try to see things from their perspective. People’s feedback don’t always align with my goals. On the other hand, when giving feedback, you must consider the individuality of the content creator. Not everyone is going to want to do exactly what you do.
Is the issue something that’s out of my hands? If there’s nothing I can do about it, then I will just leave it.
How are they phrasing their words? Are they being clear and specific, or are they so vague that they’re unhelpful? If someone is rude, I will likely ignore them, which goes back to the second point on the commenter’s intention.
I will listen and try to understand why those comments were made, but I will not follow everything. Not going to lie, feedback when I did not ask for it can feel like mansplaining. I think this can be mitigated by the last bullet point on how you phrase your criticism. I’ve found some feedback incredibly helpful, but those were mostly when I asked for feedback.
When it comes to work or academics, I am a lot less critical of feedback. In fact, I often ask for constructive feedback. At work, there is a quality of standard deemed “acceptable” or not. When it comes to my personal blog that I just update for fun, I feel that it’s a lot more subjective.
I rarely criticise others because I feel that I would need to be really knowledgeable or really good at something to do that. When people ask for my feedback, I will let them know my thoughts. However, whether they decide to do something with it is up to them. I will not be upset if someone does not listen to my suggestions.
A question for bloggers: Do you ever feel like some of your posts fade into irrelevancy as you keep putting out new posts? That they get buried deep in the archives? I guess this question applies for bloggers that frequently post.
I have over 550 posts. Maybe you can think of a few of my posts on the top of your head, but I’m guessing they’re the more recent ones. I won’t blog any less because of this, though.
I am a bit late but it’s still Day 9 for me since I haven’t slept yet…
There are many types of monsters that scare me: Monsters who cause trouble without showing themselves, monsters who abduct children, monsters who devour dreams, monsters who suck blood… and then, monsters who tell nothing but lies. Lying monsters are a real nuisance: They are much more cunning than others. They pose as humans even though they have no understanding of the human heart; they eat even though they’ve never experienced hunger; they study even though they have no interest in academics; they seek friendship even though they do not know how to love. If I were to encounter such monsters, I would likely be eaten by them… because in truth, I am that monster.” – L Lawliet
I thought about this quote a lot some years ago. Which one is more terrifying – an evil person who shows their true colours or an evil person who hides behind a mask? I think it’s the latter.
What kind of “monster” devours dreams? Is it society as a whole? Could it be a close-minded parent?
RE: “they study even though they have no interest.” I think this is quite common.
There’s a lot to unpack here. But the thing that strikes me the most is the last part:
“because in truth, I am that monster.”
Judging by this quote, I don’t think that being a monster is a bad thing. Isn’t it just being a human?
From what L is saying, I am a monster. I don’t see anything wrong with this… but maybe I am proving his point.
Japanese actor and singer, Yamashita Tomohisa, was seen leaving a hotel. He reportedly stayed at the hotel for eight hours with a 17-year-old minor. He is 35. That’s all the news there is about that right now.
I loved Yamapi when I was in high school. My friend even decorated frames with his photos for my 18th birthday. I haven’t followed his news in the past five years due to moving onto other interests. It was still a shock to read the news.
It made me think, is it okay to look up to idols? To love them and support them? We don’t even know them personally. I think it’s perfectly fine to love their character from their series but what about them as an individual?
Then I thought, the same happens to people we do know. People in our day-to-day life. Some people, including the ones closest to us, can betray us and surprise us with their wickedness. Is there a difference between this and when a celebrity does it?
Perhaps we should trust and love others until they prove to us that they do not deserve it. I wonder if this is too simple. Too positive..?
So I started watching The Classroom of the Elite and I am hooked. It’s from 2017, so I am surprised I didn’t know about the anime earlier. They present a quote at the beginning of every episode. I thought that the quote for episode 4 was very interesting.
I also have other quotes that support this thought.
Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves.” – Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
No one is truly honest…Even if we don’t lie to others, we often lie to ourselves. And the word good means different things to different people.”
Lastly, my favourite anime character, Izaya Orihara from Durarara!! talks about this in episode 2.
In regard to “Everyone’s the same” I do not believe he is referring to equality. The Classroom of the Elite talks about equality. I do not believe that humans are equal, nor do I think that humans are born equal. What I believe Izaya is talking about is specific to the context (see next screenshot).
OK, but why am I even writing about this?? Let’s just say that I think a lot, so much that my head might explode if I don’t write things down. I’m joking, of course.
To see a show talk about the things I think about is pretty sweet, as if my thoughts are being validated.
I’m 23, just graduated from university with two degrees and feel this way for everything I do. Blogging, cosplaying, photography, drawing, school, work… I can’t even remember when I did not have such feelings of just being ordinary. Shouta Kisa from Sekai Ichi Hatsukoi is 30 and feels this way. Is it bad that I’ve felt this at a much younger age? Have I ever felt gung-ho about anything?
Truth be told, my Why Do I Blog? and Why Do I Cosplay? posts were written to help myself decide if I should continue to blog and cosplay. Like Kisa, I don’t feel depressed about this. I’m just being realistic.
RE: My What’s Your Ultimate Talent? (Danganronpa Inspired Post!) Click HERE to read it. I now have an answer to my own question I wrote at the end of that post. I used to be unsure, but now I think I would rather be the best at one talent instead being kind of good at multiple talents.
OK, this may all sound pessimistic as heck but since I’ve wrestled with these thoughts for a long time, here’s what helped me:
I think about my favourite singers and bands. Some are very popular and famous, while others are lesser known. Don’t I like them all the same? Isn’t it just personal preference? I don’t see anyone giving up, either.
I am not the best at anything I do, and it’s not something I’m striving for, either. I just want to continue to do my hobbies because it brings me some joy. That’s all.
When we keep our expectations of this world and of ourselves low, there will be less disappointment and heartache later on.
This is a continuation of my << Tonegawa’s Speech [Kaiji] >> post. In that post, I talked about how I realized that I am living my actual, real life at this very moment, at all times. For more context, read the post…
However, when I finished writing that post, I was still confused because I didn’t have enough information. What does living a fulfilling life look like? Did Tonegawa follow what he preached?
Then I watched Fune wo Amu. It’s a highly underrated anime and I don’t have anything negative to say about it. Go check it out.
Fune wo Amu follows the life of Mitsuya Majime. Majime dedicates his life towards creating The Great Passage, a dictionary that will always remain incomplete. Why incomplete? Because words are alive and are constantly changing, so the dictionary will need to be continuously revised and edited. It is Majime’s life’s work. The Great Passage will help people better understand one another and make society a better place.
This line is from the last episode. I feel a lot of respect towards people who have something to live for, people who dedicate their entire lives towards something they are passionate about. When people pour their hearts into a piece of work, it’s very admirable and honourable. Perhaps this is an answer to what I’ve been thinking about.
I never had this “problem” before, until recently. I’ve finished some shows, but other shows… I am close to finishing them (just 2 or 3 episodes until completion) but I’ve stopped watching them. I like the shows, too. See below:
Eternal Love of Dream 53/56
& I’m trying to figure out the reason(s) for why I do this. Do you guys do this too? I have a few ideas:
1. You don’t want the series to end. You aren’t ready to let go of the characters and the series. If it never ends, you can avoid feeling the post-series “void.”
2. You are afraid of a bad ending, or a rushed job.
3. The show already gave you everything you wanted… whatever that was.
4. You lost interest in the show.
I’m sure there are more reasons. If you can think of more reasons, please let me know. I feel like none of these are exactly it for me.
I was mindlessly scrolling through Instagram (this is nothing new) and I came across this meme.
I immediately thought about Tonegawa from Kaiji. So I rewatched his speeches and I really like this one.
Normally, those people would never wake up from their fantasy worlds. They live meaningless lives. They waste their precious days over nothing. No matter how old they get, they’ll continue to say, “My real life hasn’t started yet. The real me is still asleep, so that’s why my life is such garbage.” They continue to tell themselves that. And they age. Then die. And on their deathbeds, they will finally realize: the life they lived was the real thing. People don’t live provisional lives, nor do they die provisional deaths. That’s a simple fact! The problem… is whether they realize that simple fact.” – Yukio Tonegawa
Frankly, I felt called out. I often tell myself that I don’t belong here and that I wish I could teleport to another world. That I feel like an alien sometimes. I frequently think, “If only I could do this… If only I had this…”
Tonegawa’s speech makes a lot of sense to me. Whatever fantasy world I’m dreaming of, I need to wake up from it. I need to recognize that I am living my real life right now. It is a simple fact…
Let’s say you recognize that you’ve been wasting your life away. Then what?? Thinking is easy, but taking action is not.