Authenticity?

What does authenticity mean to you?

I can’t help but think that I only present a certain side of me on this blog and my social media. My secret blog is quite different from this one.

I value authenticity. I strive to be an authentic person and I’ve been told that I am one. I haven’t been feeling like one lately.

I don’t think I’m fake, though. I just don’t show everything – There’s no good reason to, either. Isn’t everyone the same?

Thoughts?

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#Killstagram Chapter 34

29 thoughts on “Authenticity?

  1. I guess I would say that authenticity in regards to a person is that they simply give their views in a truthful manner. Not that they display EVERYTHING that they believe in, but that when they do display an opinion or part of themselves, that they do so in a truthful way. So being honest, basically.

    “I don’t think I’m fake, though. I just don’t show everything”
    I think that statement is probably true for everyone, anonymous or not.

    What makes you feel like you haven’t been as authentic lately?

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    • What made me start feeling this way was the creation of my secret blog. These two blogs are quite different, as I wrote in the post. So it kind of feels… selective, in a way in regards to what I post on this blog and my social media. Context: My secret blog covers more “controversial” topics that I would not blog about on here. Do you know what I mean? That was basically the reason for the blog. So I kind of feel like there are two sides of me but instead of showing both on here, one side is kept secret.

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      • I see what you mean. I guess how authentic you feel would depend on how much of yourself you’re willing to reveal to the Internet. Honestly, I don’t think anyone would consider it unauthentic to withhold opinions on the Internet though, privacy is important too.

        I hold many opinions that would be considered controversial / politically incorrect but don’t consider myself any less authentic for not sharing them, even if I were to go onto an anonymous platform and share them elsewhere.

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  2. To me, being authentic is being true to yourself. Ideally, that is done in the context of also being socially and environmentally responsible. For instance, you might be naturally inclined to anger and violence, but you keep such things in check so as to be socially responsible.

    I do not believe authenticity requires us to ‘tell all’ or reveal everything about ourselves, but I do believe that a relatively authentic person is going to be far more open about who they are — and far less deceitful — than a relatively inauthentic person.

    So far as I have seen, the main reason many of us are less authentic than we might be is we are trying to be popular — or at least, we are trying to avoid alienating people.

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    • “you might be naturally inclined to anger and violence, but you keep such things in check so as to be socially responsible.” – Not that this is me, but could you please expand on this? If someone is naturally inclined to anger and violence, isn’t that their authentic self? This is a part I don’t quite understand…

      Ah, as someone who was not popular in childhood and liked anime relentlessly, I do see myself as an authentic person in that regard. I wasn’t – and still am not – the type of person to shy away from my hobbies and interests. Thanks for the comment!

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      • For the sake of illustration, let’s say there’s a guy named Sam who was born with an inclination towards anger and violence. That would mean Sam is being true to himself when he expresses his anger — even when he expresses it in violent ways. But let’s further say that Sam wants two things in life. He wants (1) to be authentic, and (2) to be moral. If that’s so, then it’s easy to see there could be times when those two things conflict with each other. Times when Sam can have one, but not both of them.

        So what does Sam do then? Well, if he decides to be moral, then he’s moral, but inauthentic. And if he decides to be authentic, then he’s authentic, but immoral. So a lot depends in Sam’s case on whether he believes in simply being true to himself (authentic), or whether he believes in being true to himself within the context of also being socially responsible. ‘Socially responsible’ is just philosopher’s jargon for ‘being moral’.

        To me, Rose, the ideal adult is a strong, authentic individual who is also socially and environmentally responsible. Such an individual could find themselves in situations where they decide to forego being authentic in order to stick to being moral.

        Does any of that help?

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  3. I think in general to be authentic is not necesarily the same thing as revealing everything about yourself. People are allowed to reveal whatever they want to about themselves, whether that’s a lot or nothing…that’s up to the individual. I think if you reveal stuff about yourself that isn’t true, you seize being authentic.
    What you see is what you get I guess is the best way to describe it😀

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    • Yeah, I get that. I’ll copy and paste what I wrote to Yomu, so you have a bit more context here.

      What made me start feeling this way was the creation of my secret blog. These two blogs are quite different, as I wrote in the post. So it kind of feels… selective, in a way in regards to what I post on this blog and my social media. Context: My secret blog covers more “controversial” topics that I would not blog about on here. Do you know what I mean? That was basically the reason for the blog. So I kind of feel like there are two sides of me but instead of showing both on here, one side is kept secret.

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      • I understand Rose, but still, there is no reason to feel bad about it in any way 😊 That other blog is a part of you as well, and it’s something you have created to talk about stuff that you are not sharing here. And really, that’s okay😀 I mean each and everyone of us has things they don’t want to share with anyone: and there can be maybe a million different reasons for that😊 What’s most important to remember is the fact that people here respect you, and this blog has always been a fun place to visit😊 Because it’s unexpected, and it covers so many different things, and that’s what I like about it. A post like this? It only share you are totally authentic: because you have shared your feelings with us and have also shared something that you have been struggling with. If that isn’t authentic, I don’t know what is 😊😊

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      • “A post like this? It only share you are totally authentic: because you have shared your feelings with us and have also shared something that you have been struggling with. If that isn’t authentic, I don’t know what is 😊😊”

        This is so true!! Hahaha! I haven’t thought about it like that before so thank you very much, Michel!

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      • I have a secondary blog where I am more “authentic.” Many of the posts are crossed from my regular blog but there are a few originals. It’s because I don’t knw how people will react to more unfiltered version of “me.”

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  4. One thing I learn from my past is that to be mature is to “express yourself fully without hurting another person feelings”

    Maybe it is something close to the authenticity you try to achieve?

    But in all means good luck for achieving that is probably not easy

    Best of wishes

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    • Ahhh, yes… I think that is close!

      The “without hurting another person feelings” part is very important. I agree that it’s not easy. I mean, maybe I am authentic and am overthinking this, but I do view it as a continuous process and journey. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment!

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  5. I show a lot of nerdiness with respect to otaku culture and reading and wanting more diversity in literature, which is a very authentic rep of my passions with those things. But there is a whole other, very serious side of me that mostly deals with a lot of my mental conditions and being on the autism spectrum that I keep very private. Even in my Self-Care Sunday and other personal posts, I only show a supreme fraction of those aspects of myself. For me, I know that I’ll never be able to describe or depict those more serious aspects of myself online in a way that is authentic to others, since people with similar conditions can have vastly difference experiences with it, so I keep it to myself. The worse thing that can happen (from personal experience) is being vulnerable enough to share those things and then get called out for being “fake” or trying to garner attention, which is never what it’s about and can be pretty hurtful mentally. Most of the time it’s a request for support and empathy. So, I try not to put those portions of myself in a situation where it can just exasperate everything, or even cause harm to others in anyway. I dunno if this makes sense… sorry.

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    • Thanks so much for sharing! It makes sense, no need to apologize!

      I was tempted to create a private, second Twitter account to tweet about the things that I would not on my main. For multiple reasons – so that only people I trust can view them, to not spam everyone’s timelines, more freedom in tweeting what I want, but I think the biggest reason was the “Most of the time it’s a request for support and empathy” part that you mentioned. At the same time, I am worried that the tweets could make me feel *too* vulnerable and the fake and garnering attention stuff like you said.

      I’ve decided not to go with the private Twitter account idea for now. & it is comforting to hear that other people are feeling a similar way. Yomu wrote something to me earlier and I think his questions are important. They were:

      “I guess the question is, what is it that you wish you could say that you feel like you can’t now?

      And then beyond that, is it really something that needs to be put out onto the Internet?”

      These questions made me not to go with the private Twitter account but I’ll be thinking about them moving forward in regards to the blog and other stuff.

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  6. Too much authenticity and somebody somewhere will find a reason to attack you. My own authenticity involves growing older, anime, an iconoclastic view of society, a touch of Asperger’s, and a more than a bit of nakedness. There are social groups where if I were authentic I’d be driven out if not simply banned. I don’t go there.

    Even here on WP I’m not completely authentic. I may push boundaries occasionally but I never get into politics. It does not matter what you believe and why or who you support, somebody, somewhere, somehow will take offense and decide you are not fit to be considered a human being.

    I also don’t involve other people in my blog by name. If you see a picture of someone other than me, it was either taken at a public demonstration or is a publicity shot.

    So, while what you see of me is completely authentic, it is not the entirety of me. You can probably guess my political views from my posts but I’ll never state them. For me, my blogging life needs to be a politics free zone.

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    • “Too much authenticity and somebody somewhere will find a reason to attack you.” – I agree with this.

      “It does not matter what you believe and why or who you support, somebody, somewhere, somehow will take offense and decide you are not fit to be considered a human being.” – I also agree with this.

      I guess for our own sake and safety, we shouldn’t be 100% authentic. “So, while what you see of me is completely authentic, it is not the entirety of me” – I love this part. & I think this is something I have to understand, that you can still be authentic while not showing everything. Thanks for the comment, Fred! I was able to relate to parts of it. I appreciate the list of what makes you authentic. 🙂

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