Sekai Ichi Hatsuko Episode 8
I’m 23, just graduated from university with two degrees and feel this way for everything I do. Blogging, cosplaying, photography, drawing, school, work… I can’t even remember when I did not have such feelings of just being ordinary. Shouta Kisa from Sekai Ichi Hatsukoi is 30 and feels this way. Is it bad that I’ve felt this at a much younger age? Have I ever felt gung-ho about anything?
Truth be told, my Why Do I Blog? and Why Do I Cosplay? posts were written to help myself decide if I should continue to blog and cosplay. Like Kisa, I don’t feel depressed about this. I’m just being realistic.
RE: My What’s Your Ultimate Talent? (Danganronpa Inspired Post!) Click HERE to read it. I now have an answer to my own question I wrote at the end of that post. I used to be unsure, but now I think I would rather be the best at one talent instead being kind of good at multiple talents.
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OK, this may all sound pessimistic as heck but since I’ve wrestled with these thoughts for a long time, here’s what helped me:
I think about my favourite singers and bands. Some are very popular and famous, while others are lesser known. Don’t I like them all the same? Isn’t it just personal preference? I don’t see anyone giving up, either.
I am not the best at anything I do, and it’s not something I’m striving for, either. I just want to continue to do my hobbies because it brings me some joy. That’s all.
When we keep our expectations of this world and of ourselves low, there will be less disappointment and heartache later on.
Wretched and Divine 
Believing in yourself and your abilities doesn’t necessitate believing yourself the best. Or even striving towards some personal perception of “best.” Being much older, I would encourage you to explore many venues in your youth; as you age, you’ll notice an accretion of responsibilities that will gradually slow such explorations and incrementally dull–if not your interests–your enthusiastic pursuit of same. Time slips on like gossamer but wears like iron. That said, I’ll offer you the same advice my father gave me, which I in turn offered my own children: “Find what you love and defend it.” Find joy and sometimes solace in your chosen passion[s], and never let anyone take that passion from you.
Oh, and one last bit of advice since you’re a new graduate: Work with passion, but never let your job define you. I see a lot of that in law enforcement, and it’s sad. So be a person who works the job, NOT the job itself. (This might sound inane now, but you’ll thank me later.)
Congrats on graduating, and good luck! There’s a whole world out there just waiting for you to discover it–and waiting also to discover you. Have fun!
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“Find what you love and defend it.” – That’s really nice. Thank you. 🙂
Yeah, I always try my best in the work I do. I still work hard and put in a lot of effort and dedication in my work! Thanks David 🙂 There’s a lot out there that I haven’t experienced yet. xD
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Find your bliss and then follow it.
“If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
– Joseph Campbell
Nothing about that says you have to be the best. You need to enjoy the process. Enjoy it enough to climb the obstacles you encounter along the way. If you do, you will be successful regardless of any rewards or public acclamation or artificial ranking. Find what fascinates you and pursue it and you will become better at it than anything else you could do.
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
– Desiderata
There will *always* be people who are richer or poorer or smarter or not so smart or stronger or weaker or whatever. The only thing anyone is the best at is being themselves.
Two degrees and only 23? Creative, beautiful, and healthy? There are plenty of people in the world who would give up a decade of their life to be where you are right now. You’re already among the best and the brightest. But yeah, there’s always the guy who made his first million at that age or knew from the age of 6 exactly what they wanted to do in life and is doing it. But, so what? They aren’t as good at being you as you are.
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Thanks Fred!! I used to compare myself with others a lot (mostly in my first year of university) but now I don’t do it very much… but I think it quite difficult to cut it out completely. If I was still hung up on comparisons, I think I would have quit my hobbies a long time ago. I’ve got another relevant quote:
“The fastest way to kill something special is to compare it to something else.” – Craig Groeschel
I also agree that no one is better at being you than you. In that sense, I guess everyone has something that they are the best at. Hahaha.
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